Who would date Ron Weasley when there is Christian Grey?

           Hot, gorgeous, breathtakingly handsome. Any woman would do everything just to get a man like that. Each of us does have our own eye candies we dream of at night. Chris Hemsworth, Channing Tatum, Chris Evans, hearing these names make us girls drool and quiver, right? We promise to ourselves, “I will catch a hot boyfriend.” But when it comes to choosing the person to love, do we really stick to that promise?

           With the books that we read, there is always the handsome leading man. Christian Grey from Fifty Shades of Grey, or Edward Cullen from Twilight, both of these men are described as the perfect guys smitten with their commoner leading ladies. As a result, it strengthens our belief that we may also have a shot to have the same fate.  But is it right to think that way? I do believe that there are certain factors how we come up with this thinking. These are the following:

1. Low self-esteem

Christian Grey is willing to change his ways for Anastasia Steele. Edward Cullen was madly smitten by Bella Swan. These two lucky girls share the same fate and same characteristic that is having a concrete confidence among themselves. They believe that they do not deserve those beautiful creatures that have fallen in love with them. Being too overwhelmed in the story, we forget that we are in the real world and so we put ourselves in their shoes which is wrong.

2. For the Schwag

Women do hope of having a boyfriend that is drop dead handsome. Why? It’s simply because we want a hot boyfriend to parade in front of all the girls. Just like guys wanting to have a trophy girlfriend to lift their status, us girls want that too. In the girl world, having a hot boyfriend is like having a crown that comes with cape with the phrase “Beat that, bitches!” written on the back that serves as a hard slap on other girls’ jealous faces. Girls are naturally mean.

           With the factors stated above, all I can say is that, “Welcome to our ego.” Us girls do have the immortal faith of having the perfect love story like those of what we read in the books. Even though it is a good thing that we are having a positive mind by looking forward to the soon arrival of our prince charming, it’s still bad because what we’re expecting is wrong.

           Because of the over-the-top qualities of Christian Grey and Edward Cullen, we tend to set our standards too high. If I would ask girls who would like to date Ron Weasley, would someone raise a hand? Who would go for the dork and sleazy matched against the sleek and sexy? Honestly, I would. Growing up I’ve been dreaming that soon a dark knight would snatch me from a lazy afternoon of daydreaming and take me to his kingdom and live happily ever after, but years passed and passed and no one came. I’m now 21 years old and realized it’s just a wishful thinking. I’ve been believing the things I read from these love stories that I forgot they are fictitious. I’ve set my standards high. I rejected a guy that I like because he doesn’t have the qualities I’m looking for. I could’ve been happy but I didn’t even try and give us a chance. 

           Too driven with these love stories, I’ve dealt with six lonely years waiting and searching. Finally, someone came. Well, he’s not quite like Christian Grey or Edward Cullen. Not even Ron Weasley but he has something common with the three. Love. I realized that in finding your true love, there is not really a standard. As long as you love each other, no matter how worse your man is, he will do everything to straighten up his ways. Given that none of us is perfect, you cannot judge one’s worth and capabilities to love and do things for love. Remember that both of you serves as trophies held by each other so make yourselves better. A true lovely couple exhibits genuine love rather than beauty or else it’s just a pretentious one.